Learn to recognize the difference between discipline and abuse. It could save your child's life.

Discipline can be abuse when...

• The child has a physical injury, such as bruising, broken skin, swelling, marks from an object such as an extension cord or hairbrush, a burn or a situation that requires medical attention.
• The person giving the discipline means to instill fear rather than educate your child.
• The person giving the discipline loses control.
• The action is inappropriate for the child's age.
• The action results from unreasonable demands or expectations for the child.

When Do I Know if Discipline Has Gone Too Far?
Ask yourself how you feel about the discipline.

• Do I feel good about this action?
• Is there an important lesson to be taught?
• Does the child know that the person giving the discipline loves him or her?
• Is there mutual respect, or is there fear?
• Are you or your partner behaving in a way you would like your child to behave?

Your child needs to know that you are in charge, but that you love and respect them. They should not fear you or your partner. Talk to your children and decide together on expectations and reasonable consequences for misbehavior.